It seems that during every stroll I take or every scroll through the latest posts I make, a brand-spanking engagement ring sits perfectly on the manicured finger of one of my dear friends. Yes- it’s that time in my life where everyone is taking the big love leap and getting married! Personally, my heart flutters with every one of these sparkling posts that I see. It is so lovely to know that my friends are going to feel the way I felt- Oh so in love on one very special day.
Nearly a year later, the only memories I have of that day most wonderful day are absolutely just that- wonderful. But if I put my ‘let’s get real hat’ on William Shakespeare was on point when he said that, “The course of true love never did run smooth,” and I think this is pretty darn relevant when it comes to planning a wedding. That ‘one’ day is truly a scrumptious occasion but I’d be lying if I said the journey to that aisle strut was silky smooth.
During a recent catch up with my girls I was quick to realise that we all had a few things in common when it came to wedding freak outs. Ta da- blog post! Let’s go for a walk through the mind of a bride and I hope that if you’re planning a wedding you’ll feel less ‘bridezilla’ and more comforted in the fact that it’s all just a part of this flippin rad adventure. Also know that your hysterical outburst can be summed up with one simple word: normal!
Expect the Expectation:
One thing I’ve learned from my girlfriends is we are all bound to feel the weight of expectations pressing heavily on our shoulders during those busy wedding months. It’s a no brainer: We want our day to be perfect, unique, and personalised. We get worried that our guests won’t have a good time. Well girl, flick that thought away quick smart. One thing I can guarantee you is that if your guests see you and your brand new hubby loving the heck out of each other- they will have no choice but to adore the day that you’ve created. Always remember that your guests will not know all of your potential plans and wildest wedding wishes, they will love what they see. And that is you, making a sacred commitment to your person.
Yes- people will expect this. Yes, they will expect that- but how fresh is it when people tamper with these expectations? Give your day a point of difference- I think that’s what we are all searching for.
If it’s not a definite yes- it’s a definite no
I am in love with fashion and I really wanted to find a dress that was ‘timeless’. Hold up… have you seen your Mum’s wedding dress? Don't get me wrong- she looks flippin incredible- but you can really see how much times are a changing! Timeless is actually a pretty hard thing to master when it comes to wearing white layers. Searching for the perfect dress is like finding the perfect person. It just fits. But it can take a wee bit of searching! I’m not sure we are all going to have that ‘this is the one’ moment like we see on at the flicks, but I do remember always coming back to that ‘special’ piece that I couldn’t stop thinking about. Don’t be afraid to be unique and defs don’t be afraid to juush things up. There is a pretty little dress looking for you and calling your name- you might just have to listen more closely to hear it.
Whether the weather be fine, whether the weather be not…
The little wedding mantra that I kept hidden in my heart was to not worry about the things I had no control over. If it rained, it rained and I would probably get wet. If I tripped, well that would be less than ideal, but I would simply stand up. No matter what happens on your day, you will still get to marry your number 1 bestie and that’s the point of this whole thing isn’t it? P.S overcast clouds make for the most perfect pictures- so don’t be praying for a 30 degree day anytime soon. If you can’t handle that weather jandle have an easy backup option just in case. P.P.S umbrellas serve their purpose perfectly!
Guess who’s coming to dinner?
There are two words you will never want to hear again post wedding: Guest List
This is hands down the hardest and most emotional part of planning a wedding. It can bring a tear to the toughest bride’s eye. There are a lot of no brainers involved- you’re on a budget and you’re restricted by space. There’s also lots of heart breaking decisions that come along with it: Pleasing parents, do you invite kids? What about partners? And the list goes on...and on. Trust me!
But there’s also something really important to keep in mind- you’re getting married and you need to be surrounded by your biggest fans. It’s fair to say you are not going to be able to please everyone. The best way to work through this is compromise and conversation. Be honest and don’t ever feel bad about the decision you make together- people do understand… or… they will when they find themselves in your shoes.
Not a care in the world!
You will find yourself fretting about your chair covers being straight and you will worry that dinner might be served 15 minutes late. These are all completely normal worries to have as you travel this road. One thing I can guarantee is that on your day you won’t care in the slightest- you’re married, girl. Nothing can take that feeling away from you. (Thanks for the thought- Kate x)
As I sat down to write this blog it took me SO much longer to recollect the momentary stresses than it did the everlasting moments of joy. Enjoy wedding planning. Celebrate your adventure and of course stay true to you two. You’re love is perfect and your day will be too.
Here's a wee treat and a lasting little note from my faves and recent brides…
Bridget || married to Hamish 2014. Photo cred: Eva Bradley Photography
Feel confident with the dress you choose and never doubt your decision.
Katie || marrying Matt 2017.
I was unsure about whether to send Save the Dates and when to send invites.
But give yourself time to get everything back.
Kate || married to Matt 2014. Photo cred: Toni Larsen Photography
Prioritise what’s important to you and where you want to spend your cash. Things can get expensive fast.
Rachel || married to Chris 2012. Photo cred: Claire Mossong
Plan, plan, plan! Book things that you love well in advance.
Alice || married to Tom 2015. Photo cred: Brooke Baker
Have one of your friends or bridesmaids be your point of call for the day- give them your phone so your day is as stress free as possible. (Alice was my ‘go to’ and she was my saviour).
Tessa || married to Courtney 2015. Photo cred: Photography by Nami
If you have a budget stick to it. Religiously! If there is anything over and above ask yourself if it’s going to make your day any more special. If it’s not simply don’t get it.
Hannah || married to Malachi 2014. Photo cred: Brooke Baker
Be each other’s best friend and never stop flirting with each other.